How are you feeling right now?

Are there any resentments amongst the feelings inside of you? Is one or more of them directed toward a person, walking around on the planet right now? What does it feel like? Does it feel like a nausea in your heart?

In Latin, “sentire” means ‘to feel’. A ‘resentment’ then, might be understood as ‘a feeling that repeats upon us’; a feeling we cannot elude by time alone. How, then, can we do away with such persistent malignancies of emotion?

The answer, of course, if not innately understood, can be well-remembered from our formative years, whenever a conflict arose, as it did so often between two children on the schoolyard, and a supervising adult sought to resolve it.

What steps were followed by such an authority figure, in such circumstances? More than likely, they conformed to the following; step one: in the tempering presence of this mediator, each child was free, in turn, to voice their feelings about the conflict; to make known their perspective on the injury done to them by the other.

Step two: putting forth every effort to acknowledge and accommodate the feelings of both children, the adult would utilize the full power of their judgment and attempt to procure an apology from the child who caused the greater offense. If necessary, a punishment would be administered.

And so it went when we were babes. But babes we are no more. For when “[we became adults, we] put away childish things.” Gone are the responsible adults, paid and obliged to mend our broken peaces. Or more to the point, the responsible adults are us.

How do we proceed, then, in the absence of an apology, though it might be owed, as life owes death?

It is no easy thing. The harms man commits against his fellows are great. Yet there is recourse, and it’s pursuant to the same principles that governed the schoolyards of our nonage.

We must plead guilty or no contest to every charge levied against us; we must argue on behalf of the prosecution, and throw ourselves upon the mercy of the court.

For only then have we the spiritual dexterity to “forgive those who trespass against us;” who do so with impunity, laughingly, asking no forgiveness.

For only then are we truly free.

The Interactive Guide to How Addiction Affects Relationships

Introduction: What is Addiction?

Addiction is a chronic disease that impacts the brain. It is a complex condition with many components, including physical, psychological, and social factors.

It is not just about drugs or alcohol. Many people become addicted to activities such as gambling, shopping, or sex.

What Type of Relationships Are Most at Risk for Addiction?

There are many types of relationships that can be at risk for addiction. However, there are some that are more at risk than others. For example, families with addiction problems have a higher probability of addiction in the children. They also have an increased risk of divorce and domestic violence.

How to Deal With an Addict in a Relationship

Addiction is a difficult topic to talk about, but it is an important one. It can be a difficult addiction to overcome and can take years of therapy and hard work. There are many different types of addiction, but the most common ones are drugs and alcohol.

The first step in dealing with an addict in a relationship is establishing boundaries. This means that you should have limits on how much they can drink or do drugs, what they can do while they’re drinking or doing drugs, and how often they can drink or do drugs. Setting these boundaries will help you feel more in control of the situation.

The second step is to get professional help for yourself if you need it. You may need counseling for your own emotional issues as well as information about how to deal with an addict in

What are the Effects of Addiction on a Relationship?

There are many effects that addiction has on a relationship. These include the addict’s behavior and actions as well as the family’s participation in the addict’s recovery process. The addict’s behavior and actions are often dictated by their addiction. This can cause problems for the family because it may be difficult to predict when they will relapse or if they will relapse at all.

The family’s participation in the addict’s recovery process is also important because this shows how much they care about them and want them to get better.

Conclusion & Tips for Recovery Partners

In conclusion, it is important for recovering partners to remember that their relationship with the other person is the most important thing. They should not feel discouraged if they do not get the ideal response from their loved one. It takes time and patience to heal a relationship.

Some tips for recovering partners are:

– Keep your partner in the loop about what you are doing and feeling.

– Be patient with yourself and your partner as it takes time for both parties to heal from this type of relationship.

– Make sure you take care of yourself by going on walks, reading books, or spending time with friends and family members who support you.

Finding Your Higher Power

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Have you found your higher power? Is it God, the ocean, or a doorknob? Or is it something else entirely?

It is the opinion of the writer of this blog that the newcomer might very understandably feel nonplussed by the Big Book’s distinction between a God rooted in theological tradition, and a “higher power of [their] own understanding.” After all, in both cases, the newcomer is asked to believe in something for which there is no physical evidence. The dismissal of scientific reasoning in the chapter We Agnostics is specious; yes, like faith, science involves assumptions; but unlike faith, science is testable.

So now, what then? What are we left with? Have we outsmarted the Big Book? We can, at the very least, agree that God “is or He isn’t.” And this writer can agree to something else too; something that can be heard quoted, across the world on the right night, in meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous:

Except in a few rare cases, neither [the alcoholic] nor any other human being can provide [an effective mental defense against the first drink]. His defense must come from a Higher Power.”

Sometimes, your friends and family will save you from despair. Other times, you will save yourself.

But then there will come another time. A time when there will be no one and you will have nothing. What then?

It is the opinion of the writer of this blog that a reasonable person cannot possibly believe in a higher power, and must dismiss the notion. They must, however, simultaneously and constantly, believe in something exactly like a higher power, and make this belief the fundament of their worldview.

It is the opinion of the writer of this blog that a reasonable person cannot possibly believe in a higher power, and must dismiss the notion. They must, however, simultaneously and constantly, believe in something exactly like a higher power, and make this belief the fundament of their worldview, in order to maintain peak mental fitness. 

Conclusion

Maybe you still feel as if the word “God” or “Higher Power” is something too far out or is just too confusing. The beautiful thing is, this is your experience to have and build. The more you seek your Higher Power, the more your conception of what it might be will grow into something unfathomable, you will just know that your Higher Power is there with you.

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What’s Wrong with Alcoholics Anonymous?

The coffee in Alcoholics Anonymouse, it must be said, is uniformly terrible. Aside from this, one is hard-pressed to find its faults.

Isn’t that exceptional? You might be inclined to levy accusations of bias, but let us look at it.

This is not to say that the meetings of said group are not tedious, or that its members are not tiresome or testy; more often than not, they are. This is to say that the institution itself, by virtue of its architecture, comes as close to perfect as any human construct ever has.

For it is well recognized that the “concentration of wealth yields concentration of power. And concentration of political power gives rise to legislation that increases and accelerates the cycle.” *-Noam Chomsky And this truism has borne itself out time and again throughout human history, even in the most democratically inspired and spiritually erect endeavors; like the coercion of members into the teamsters union in the 20th century, or the offered indulgences of the Catholic Church in the 15th century.

And yet not so in Alcoholics Anonymous. How can this be?

Is the alcoholic so much more upright than the next fellow? Certainly not.

There is, at the time of this writing, a very good documentary available for free on Amazon Prime named Bill W., after the founder of the organization, and it tells his story in some detail. But even those interviewed in it can only guess at the miraculous marvel of the program.

The imperviousness of Alcoholics Anonymous; AA’s infallibility in the face of the most elemental forces of corruption since the world set itself to turning, is indeed mysterious. However, the source of that power is not.

It lies in the 7th and 11th traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous, which state that “every AA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions” and that “our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio and films.”

Bill W. certainly meant to act in the latter tradition when he declined the offer, made in 1960 by Time, to feature his face on the cover of their magazine.

Was his decision, in that particular case, right or wrong? This writer, for one, is not so sure. 

So, What is Alcoholics Anonymous, you might be wondering.

Many may believe that is just a group of alcoholics in a dark room filled with smoke drinking coffee. You may be surprised that you might find hope, happiness, laughter and a connection you may have never experience before. Yes we do talk about our problems but we also bring solutions to our meetings that go beyond just not taking a drink. We inspire each-other by sharing our experiences in life, both good and bad, and how we navigated through the rollercoaster of life. Alcoholics Anonymous offers our hand to anyone who might be one minute sober to someone with almost a lifetime of sobriety.

Conclusion

Maybe you have found yourself intrigued by this article and would like to check out a meeting sometime. AA-Intergroup provides an online directory to AA Zoom meetings around the world! You can also come checkout our weekly bonfire meeting at Oak Forest Recovery in the Agoura Hills/Thousand Oaks California area. Come by to listen to a great speaker and enjoy fellowship, food and fun!

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The central office in LA is always available 24/7 365 days a year for anyone who maybe struggling.

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At Oak Forest Recovery, we offer a sober living community that encourages our clients to be engaged with a 12-Step Program along with many other forms of therapy. We do not affiliate with AA in anyway, we just have seen the benefits it has brought into current and past clients who have come through our treatment center.

Why Sober Living is the Best Choice for Recovering Addicts

Why Sober Living is the Best Choice for Recovering Addicts

Sober living homes are transitional residences that help recovering addicts adjust to life after rehab. When compared to other recovery options, such as sober apartments or group homes, sober living provides the best chance of maintaining sobriety. This is because it combines a safe and supportive environment with the challenges of everyday life outside of rehab. Sober living facilities provide recovering addicts with a home-like setting while offering helpful services like nutritionists, doctors, and drug addiction counselors. The result is a safe space that helps individuals avoid the triggers and temptations of everyday life while also meeting their housing needs. In this article, we’ll explain why so many recovering addicts choose Sober Living as the best option for staying sober after rehab.

What is Sober Living?

Sober living is a form of transitional housing that helps recovering addicts transition from rehab to independent living. It’s also known as “co-occurring treatment,” “dual-diagnosis treatment,” or “co-treatment.” Co-occurring treatment is designed for individuals who are struggling with drug addiction and another mental health issue, such as depression, anxiety, or bipolar disorder. Sober living is often used as an alternative to inpatient or residential treatment. Individuals who participate in this type of treatment live at a facility or home with other people in recovery. Sober living facilities are often managed by a counselor or case manager. They provide a safe and supportive environment, as well as onsite or nearby medical care. They also help individuals meet their daily housing and cost of living needs.

The Benefits of Sober Living for Recovering Addicts

Sober living provides a safe and supportive environment that helps recovering addicts avoid trigger situations and maintain sobriety. This best chance at recovery for individuals who struggle with drug addiction and another mental health issue. Sober living facilities are often managed by a counselor or case manager. They provide a safe and supportive environment, as well as onsite or nearby medical care. They also help individuals meet their daily housing and cost of living needs. Sober living offers a variety of useful services and amenities. These include individualized drug addiction counseling, group therapy, nutritionists, healthcare professionals, and aftercare planning. These services help recovering addicts avoid the trigger and temptation situations of everyday life outside of rehab. They also help individuals find suitable housing and meet the daily costs of living. Additionally, sober living facilities provide a home-like setting that helps individuals adjust to life after rehab.

Why Most Recovering Addicts Chose Sober Living After Rehab

Sober living offers a combination of elements that help recovering addicts adjust to life after rehab. These include safety, access to drug addiction counseling, and access to healthcare providers. These elements also help recovering addicts avoid the trigger and temptation situations of everyday life outside of rehab. The result is a safe space that helps individuals adjust to life after rehab while also helping them maintain sobriety. Sober living facilities are often managed by a counselor or case manager. They provide timely, efficient, and reliable access to drug addiction counseling. Counseling is an essential part of any rehab treatment plan. It’s also an important part of addiction recovery without rehab. Counseling is a vital tool that helps individuals overcome drug addiction. It allows them to identify and work through any emotional or mental health issues they’re struggling with. It also helps them develop coping skills, change self-destructive behaviors, and discover new ways of thinking and living that are positive and productive.

Types of Sober Living Facilities

Sober living facilities are also known as “co-occurring treatment,” “dual-diagnosis treatment,” or “co-treatment” facilities. This type of residential treatment is designed for individuals who are struggling with drug addiction and another mental health issue. Sober living facilities are often used as an alternative to inpatient or residential treatment. Individuals who participate in this type of treatment live at a facility or home with other people in recovery. Sober living facilities come in a variety of forms. Some are fully dedicated to helping people recover from drug addiction, while others help individuals recover from drug addiction as well as other mental health issues. Some sober living facilities are entirely drug-free and alcohol-free, while others may allow controlled substances as prescribed by doctors.

How to Find the Best Sober Living Home for You

First, you need to understand that you’re not limited to sober living homes. You can also consider sober apartments and sober group homes as potential sober living options. All three of these recovery options are great choices for individuals who are struggling with drug addiction. You can find sober living facilities through online directories and services. You can also ask your treatment providers or counselors for recommendations on sober living homes. When searching for a sober living home, you should make sure you find the best fit for you. Part of finding the best fit is considering factors such as cost, location, services, and hours. You’ll also want to consider the people who live in these facilities. Are they the people you want to live and recover with?

How do you know which one is best for you?

When you’re searching for the right sober living home, keep an eye out for red flags. If the home seems unsafe or doesn’t meet your needs and expectations, don’t hesitate to look for another home. There are many different sober living homes out there, so you should be able to find one that meets your needs and expectations. You should also be able to find one that meets your budget. If you’re hoping to find a sober living home with like-minded individuals, you should consider joining an online community for people in recovery. These communities allow you to connect with other people in recovery, ask questions, and learn about various sober living facilities. You can also use these communities to find sober living roommates.

Conclusion

Sober living is a form of transitional housing that helps recovering addicts adjust to life after rehab. It’s also known as “co-occurring treatment,” “dual-diagnosis treatment,” or “co-treatment.” Sober living offers a safe and supportive environment that helps recovering addicts avoid trigger situations and maintain sobriety. It offers a combination of elements that help recovering addicts adjust to life after rehab. These include safety, access to drug addiction counseling, and access to healthcare providers. Sober living facilities are often managed by a counselor or case manager. They provide timely, efficient, and reliable access to drug addiction counseling.

There is help.

Often times we can find ourselves feeling alone and disconnected from the world in our struggle. At Oak Forest Recovery we are dedicated to helping you build a sober community that you can continue to grow with. Take a tour a virtual tour of our sober living!

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If you need more information what what addiction may look like or how it may show up in you or a loved ones life, please check out our resource pages.

If you or a loved one suffers from addiction please give us at call at 1-888-597-6257 or visit Oak Forest Recovery.

For more resources available in your area feel free to reach out to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. You can also find more information about substance abuse on John Hopkins Medicine website.

Understanding Fentanyl and how it affects you.

The rise of Fentanyl use has fueled the Unites States opioid epidemic in recent years . The United States has reported over 90,000 opioid related overdoses from 2019 to 2022 with close to 56,000 of those deaths reported to involve synthetic opioids. Bringing awareness to this issue and understanding the feelings of someone who struggles with the mental obsession of addiction can not only help them but allow you the opportunity to help others in your community.

Do You Feel Like Smoking Fentanyl Right Now?

This article is meant to address the desire you feel at this moment to smoke fentanyl. The writer wishes to prevent you from acting upon that desire. How can the writer accomplish this?

Perhaps by begging you in the following language: “Please, please don’t get up from wherever you are sitting and go use fentanyl today.”

Rhetorical strategies intended to manipulate you might instead only succeed in off-putting and alienating you, so a direct appeal seems appropriate.

Please. If it doesn’t kill you this time, it will next time. And there will be a next time.”

But surely, you are already aware of this danger and it is a risk you are willing to take.

So perhaps instead this writer ought to present you with options alternative to that which is currently most appealing to you.

Why don’t you go read a book? Or take a walk? Or eat an apple?

Of course and unfortunately, you will not find these option as attractive as the notion which presently preoccupies you, for if you are fantasizing about smoking fentanyl, you are in all likelihood doing so because you have done so before, and the euphoric memories of so doing have released dopamine in your brain and triggered your craving for more.

And so it appears now that the writer of this blog means to persuade you by deconstructing the neuropsychology behind your feelings.

But the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous says that we’ll be “unable to stop [using] on the basis of self-knowledge” and our current predicament does seem to bear this out, doesn’t it? You are not stupid, you are in pain, and smoking fentanyl will make the pain go away.

So instead, do this: if you love anything or anyone on earth; your family; your parents, your brother, your sister, your uncles, your aunts, a friend, your wife, your husband, a son, a daughter, someone who’s died, a place; your home, an idea, an art form, the earth or love itself; think of them now. Then hold tightly to that thought, though tornados surround you, and scream and scream and scream into your heart.

This will keep you sober from one moment to the next. But only that.

Then, if you are interested in a more permanent solution, we can help.

Conclusion

If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction, Oak Forest Recovery can help be the foundation of a new way of life allowing you to grow the connections in a community committed to spiritual growth. We offer many approaches to a long-term solution to living with addiction. We understand that depression and anxiety can fuel substance abuse and offer treatment programs that focus on the dual-diagnosis of mental disorder and substance abuse.

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How to Pray (When You Really Really Don’t Want To)

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Prayer is a central part of many religious traditions. But what is prayer? And how do we do it? How do we separate our religious bias from a spiritual way of prayer?

Defining Your Relationship With Prayer

When it comes to Prayer, there is no One-size-fits-all definition. Peoples’ relationship to prayer differs based on their religious tradition, personal beliefs, and spiritual practices. However, there are some common threads that can help us understand what prayer is and why people do it. In this blog post, we’ll explore some of the different ways people approach prayer and what it means to them.

Overcoming Your Reluctance to Pray

So, by force or favors, you’ve arrived at Step 3. Do these “meeting-makers” really expect, all of the sudden, that you’re going to believe in some omnipresent, invisible, floating Santa Clause, just beyond the clouds and sky? And on top of that, you’re going to start talking to him twice a day?

In a word: yes. That’s exactly what they expect.

Thankfully, we’ve got some fool-proof advice that you can take to the bank, which will never ever fail you, and works exactly 100% of the time:

Fake it. Fudge it. BS it.

Make believe. Pretend.

Imagine you are speaking into the microphone of a transistor radio, catapulting your voice into the outer reaches of the universe. Perhaps you’ll say something like:

I don’t believe in this. I don’t like doing this. God, this is stupid. I resent this, I’m doing this because I have to. **** this *********.”

Well done! Now, do you expect a friendly Martian to respond with his best wishes in the next 6-10 business days? You don’t.* So why are you doing it?

Mostly, you are doing it so you can answer honestly and in the affirmative when you are asked by newcomers to the program if you pray.

But, to some small extent, and ever so gradually more so, you are doing it because you respect yourself for doing something that you do not like doing, which shows humility, and which does so when no one else is watching.

Making time to pray

The act of prayer is an important part of many people’s lives. Prayer can help us to find peace in troubled times, to give thanks for the good things in our lives, and to ask for guidance and strength. But sometimes it can be difficult to find the time to pray. Life is busy and often demands our full attention. So how can we make time to pray?

Here are a few suggestions:

  • Schedule time for prayer: Set aside a specific time each day for prayer. This can be first thing in the morning, during lunch, in the evening, or whenever you have a moment.
  • Keep it short: If you don’t have a lot of time, don’t worry. You can still pray effectively even if you only have a few minutes.
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What if You Still Don’t Want to Pray?

Perhaps you refuse to participate in this practice on the basis of your atheism. You are free to do so. And good luck.

However, it must be said that you are staking your resistance upon a conviction which you cannot prove. And this is rather like the pot calling the kettle black. So you cannot much fault us, the kettle, for planting our thumbs upon our noses, waggling our fingers and stating simply but ad nauseam that it takes one to know one.

There are those who will tell you that you do not know what is best for you; that your ideas are no good. We do not say this to you now. We simply ask that you tolerate the feelings of certain discomfort that will arise as you begin this practice. Allow them into the experience. Your prayers are yours and yours alone. Now, tomorrow and always.

Just speak into the microphone.

*You may, however, experience a mind-bending, life-affirming, soul-exponentiating paradigm shift in itty bitty increments, day by day, by day, by day….

Conclusion

If you need help with creating a path for your prayers here is a list of prayers we often say in our recovery.

If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction, Oak Forest Recovery can help be the foundation of a new way of life allowing you to grow the connections in a community committed to spiritual growth.

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What Is the Difference Between Transitional and Supportive Housing?

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Housing after addiction or during recovery can be hard to come by. Only 10% of Americans as a whole that are dealing with addiction will actually receive the treatment that they need. That being said, knowing what type of housing and what type of treatment centers there are can make a big difference.

What Is Transitional Housing?

In terms of those dealing with addiction and addiction recovery, transitional housing is a temporary housing solution that is used as you pass from one type of treatment to the next. This can be the temporary housing you use before you go back to your own home, housing that is used as you move from one facility to the next, and so on.

What Is Supportive Housing?

Supportive housing is a type of housing solution that is used when you are undergoing treatment or when you need care above and beyond what you could get on your own or what you could get in a transitional housing setting. This type of housing is also another word for a live in center or a live in facility.

Which Is Best?

Both traditional and supportive housing are beneficial to those that are dealing with addiction and when you are dealing with recovery from that addiction. Supportive housing is generally the first step to care and the first step to recovery. You will be given supportive housing that allows you to get the treatment and the care that you need to recover and to actually start to recover.

As you get better and as you go through the treatment, you may be referred to transitional housing. For those looking for transitional housing in Los Angeles, Oak Forest Recovery offers both transitional and supportive housing options.

Taking the time to learn what sort of treatment you need, what sort of facility is going to work best for you, and what sort of treatment program is going to help you work through your recovery is essential. With the right facility and the right team, you can start to recover, get past your addiction, and get past the issues that you are dealing with. The right center and the right program make such a huge difference and can truly help you to recover and to get back to yourself and back to the life you want to live.

What Is a Sober Living Home?

Sober living homes, sometimes called sober houses, are essentially bridges between inpatient facilities for people healing from substance abuse like rehabs, and mainstream society. They offer a structured environment that helps a person regain their independence and adjust to life outside rehabilitation.

Some Regulations in Sober Living Homes

While sober living homes are a lot less restrictive than rehabilitation centers, they still have a few rules and regulations as well as curfews. The idea is to help the individuals ease back into their regular lives while keeping the chance of relapsing at a minimum.

These rules exist to keep residents safe, support their recovery process, and help the people build healthy, sober lifestyles after they leave. Different residences for sober living in Los Angeles have different rules and regulations, and some of them are:

  • No drugs or alcohol are allowed on the premises, with very specific exceptions for certain prescriptions.
  • Residents are responsible for their whereabouts when they leave the property.
  • They must participate in common activities in the residence, including chores and weekly meetings.
  • They must spend a stipulated number of nights per week at the residence, with a few specific exceptions.
  • No overnight guests are allowed for the residents.
  • Residents cannot keep pets on the premises unless the specific home allows it.
  • They must respect staff and fellow housemates.
  • They agree to participate in random drug and alcohol screenings while in the residence.
  • They must adhere to the set curfew.
  • The resident must have completed rehabilitation, and agree to go to therapy at least once a week.

Types of Sober Living

There are different types of sober living in Los Angeles namely:

High accountability sober living is very strict and offers a higher level of structure. It has a daily schedule and activities facilitated by the staff, and it is the best option for individuals who have had relapses after rehab before.

Traditional sober living provides structure and support but offers more freedom than high accountability sober living. Residents can go to school or work and take part in weekly meetings. They can also be subject to regular tests to ensure they are staying sober.

With only 10% of Americans living with addiction able to receive treatment, it goes without saying that addiction is a serious problem. Individuals need a lot of support to develop healthy habits, and homes for sober living in Los Angeles offer this.